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A social anxiety tracker for the replay that starts after you leave the room

The car ride home is when it starts. Mendly tracks post-social anxiety thoughts on iPhone — one tap in the moment the replay begins. Hourly patterns show how long after social events the spiral tends to run. Voice notes capture the specific thought before the next one arrives. No analysis required. Just a record of the debrief your mind runs without being asked.

The research

Clark and Wells' cognitive model of social anxiety names the car-ride-home replay 'post-event processing' — a documented feature of social anxiety, not a personal failing. Mendly's hourly pattern data shows how long that processing tends to run after a given type of interaction.

— Clark and Wells, 1995

Want to understand why this happens? Why do I replay conversations over and over? The psychology of post-event processing

Quiz

What's your social-anxiety pattern?

Question 1 of 4

When does the replay usually start?

“The event was never the problem. The 40 minutes afterward, replaying it alone, is where social anxiety actually lives — and that's the part almost no tool is built to track.”

Features

Hourly patterns

See when your inner critic is loudest. Morning spirals? Late-night overthinking? Your data, your story.

Voice notes

15 seconds to say what was actually going through your head. Optional, private, and yours.

One-tap logging

One tap marks the thought — no typing, no prompts. The friction is so low it actually works mid-meeting, mid-walk, mid-spiral.

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Apps like MindLift ask you to reframe social thoughts through CBT exercises — a useful approach when you're calm enough to work through the thought, not in the car replaying a conversation. Mendly captures the thought when it's actually happening.

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Common questions

What if the replay is still running the next morning — is it too late to log?
Not at all. Log when the thought is active, whenever that is — minutes after the event, the next day, even two days later if the replay is still running. The timestamp reflects when you logged it, which is still useful pattern data.
Will logging make me more focused on my social anxiety?
Most users find the opposite. The act of logging interrupts the replay loop rather than extending it — you've marked the thought, which creates a small distance from it. The spiral tends to lose steam faster when you've acknowledged it formally rather than trying to dismiss it.
Does it work on Android?
Not yet — Mendly is iPhone only. An Android version is on the roadmap but doesn't have a release date.
What does the free trial include?
The full app, no restrictions, for 7 days. After 7 days you choose monthly ($7.99) or annual ($59.99, about $5/month). Cancel anytime via your Apple subscriptions — no emails required.
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